Marwaris originated from the region of Marwar, now the modern day Jodhpur, in South Western Rajasthan, India. In the present time, Marwaris are one of the biggest commercial communities. Though Marwaris conduct expensive functions, yet they never forget their tradition when it comes to rituals, custom. Marwari weddings are grand and they celebrate the marriage as pre and post wedding ceremonies stretch over many days. Marwaris are really majestic with a huge guest crowd. Their weddings are grand in every aspect from food to decoration.
Marwari Pre-wedding ceremonies
Sagai: It means the engagement ceremony. The groom’s parents conduct Sagai at their house. A few men from the bride’s side visit the bridegroom’s family. A kumkum and rice tika are applied on the groom’s forehead by the bride’s brother as a token of agreeing on the match. Generally, women do not join in the ceremony. Then, the groom is offered with clothes, sweet, fruits and a sword. Mudha-Tikka is another name of Sagai.
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This ceremony is conducted a couple of days before the wedding. Both groom and bride’s family observe Ganapathi Sthapana as an opening ritual by keeping the Lord Ganesha’s Idol in their respective homes.
Griha Shanthi: The ceremony, Griha Shanthi is performed at the houses of both the families to appease the stars and planetary lords in order to make them peaceful and pleasant during the course of the wedding completion. Since the offerings are given to the Fire God (Agni), there is a hope that he may carry out all ceremonies without any chaos.
Pithi Dastoor: It is an important ceremony in which both the bride and groom are applied with turmeric, sandalwood paste throughout the face and body. The bride wears the traditional orange or yellow attire and sits on the silk canopy and accepts the ritual happily. Then, she is taken into the bath. Traditional wedding songs and dhol are played. The same ritual is observed to the groom. After Pithi Dastoor neither the groom nor the bride is allowed to leave their respective homes until the wedding.
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Mehfils, a wonderful evening time ceremony is conducted for both men and women separately. A special seating is arranged for the bride to enjoy the traditional Ghoomar dance performed at the ladies mehfil. The groom is allowed to join in the ladies mehfil and men have their own mehfil in which women are strictly avoided.
Mahira Dastoor: Mahira Dastoor is also an important ceremony celebrated at bride and groom’s houses. The maternal uncle of bride/groom will bring sweets, clothes, jewels to the entire family along with his wife. They are welcomed by the mother of bride/groom wholeheartedly.
Janev: The groom is given with a sacred thread in the wedding evening which is supposed to wear after observing a havan. During this ritual, the groom should wear a saffron robe. This ceremony confirms that the groom has to take the responsibilities that arrive with the wedding.
Palla Dastoor: A relative of the groom will come to bride’s home along with clothes, jewelry and other accessories where bridal marriage outfit and accessories are included. This ceremony is performed either on the wedding day or a day prior to the wedding.
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Baraat is the groom’s wedding procession. This procession will be consisting only male members of the family and all will carry swords including the groom.
Toran: Toran decorates the wedding venue’s entrance and the groom is supposed to hit it with a neem stick to ward off evil eyes.
Aarti: Photo by vicknes The groom after reaching the wedding venue entrance, bride’s mother performs aarti and feed sweets and water to the groom. Then, he will be welcomed inside the venue.
Jaimala: The bride is welcomed into the wedding venue. Seven suhalis (snack) is put on the head of the groom by the bride. Following this, the groom and bride exchange the flower garlands
Granthi Bandhan: Odhni (the edge of the dress) of both groom and bride is knotted which signifies the unification of two souls.
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In this important ceremony, the bride is given over to the groom by her father. In this occasion, the father of the bride asks the groom whether the groom is willing to take responsibility for her daughter. The bride also accepts the groom’s family and surname in the same ritual.
Pheras: Both of them walk around the sacred fire, take their wedding vows. Every round indicates a promise which is to be followed by the couple in their entire life.
Vamang–Sthapana and Sindurdaan: The bride is requested by the groom to sit on his life side. It signifies the groom accepts the bride and establishes her in his heart. In sindurdaan ritual, the groom put sindoor on the parting of the hair of the bride. This is an auspicious ritual.
Post wedding rituals
Bidai: This is the time for the groom and bride to depart to the new home. A coconut is kept under the wheel and it is crashed when the car starts. The bride lifts the veil before her husband and on this occasion, the groom has to gift his wife with any jewelry. This is an emotional occasion with full of happy tears.
Grihapravesh: In this ceremony, bride enters in her new home. A puja is conducted and the bride is supposed to veil during the ceremony.
Pagelagni: The bride is formally introduced to all members of the family in the groom’s side and the veil is removed only after this ceremony.
“Marriage is a wonderful occasion where not only two souls unite but both the families also unite”